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Sunday, November 05, 2006

Life's Bottom Line

I'm pretty sure I have body dysmorphic disorder. I have no idea what I really look like. There is a huge disconnect between what I see when I look at myself in the mirror and what I see when I look at myself in photographs. The truth is, I am not particularly photogenic. Even my friends tell me, "Oh, you look much better in real life." I am not ugly. I am just disconnected. Always have been.

I am fortunate that my husband thinks I am an attractive, sexy woman. But I do not really think of myself as a sexy woman. I think I can muster enough style and poise to get away with attractive. . .but sexy? Sexy is the purview of the thin, the bare, the confident. What does it take to feel sexy -- particularly if you are fat? What does it take to be sexy -- I mean really "be" sexy, not just act sexy? As I developed into a woman, being "sexy" was such a mandate. The media, populated with images of "sexy" looking women gave no real direction about what it mean to "be" sexy. And what is so important about being sexy anyway? It all comes down to being loved.

We all just want to be loved. Post 1960's "sexy" = "lovable." What a superficial analysis. But that's it really -- to be connected, to be loved. It's life's bottom line.

4 comments:

wonderwoman said...

hi mrs joseph! thanks for visiting my blog by random chances. hee. take care and get well soon. (:

Mrs. Joseph said...

Dear wonderwoman -- you are welcome. I am doing much better, thank you.

coolskool said...

thanks for commenting on my blog!! All that matters is that your husband thinks you are the most beautiful woman in the world.

Mrs. Joseph said...

coolskool -- thank you for reciprocating!